The Girl You Love to Hate

 

 If you were a fan of the original Teen Mom on MTV, like I was, you probably remember Lovable Maci, Ryan the hot bad boy, and their adorable baby boy Bentley. I was a huge a Maci fan! And even though Ryan was an ass, girls watching usually had a soft spot for him because he was so darn attractive.  And then along came Dalis, his new girlfriend. The girl we all loved to hate! She was shattering our hopes that the fairy tale we wanted, that Ryan and Maci would end up together, may not come to be true. She was for all intents and purposes the shows villan….but why?  It wasn’t Dalis that caused their break up, and she seems like a likable, hard working woman! 

You know how they say don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes? Well it’s true…I judged Dalis… And then I found myself stumbling  through life in a gorgeous pair of strappy, hot pink stilettos that I had no idea how to walk in, or how much they would hurt my feet after walking a few miles. 

I found myself in a similar position to Dalis  and it me sick to think of how I judged her. I can’t even watch the show anymore, because after you’ve lived it, your point of view completely changes. 

Saying its not easy to be in a relationship that involves a child, custody battles and the struggle to co-parent and have all parties be civil with one another is the understatement of the century. It takes an incredibly strong, self aware, and confident individual to step into that situation and handle it with the class and grace it demands. And it’s easy to faulter and not take the high road when faced with challenges, judgement and rude, demeaning comments. Not to meantion what it means and the responsibility that comes with being in a child’s life. 

Maci and her friends had their moments of cattiness toward Dalis on the show, and in some respects she may have had a right too. Overall Maci handled Dallis being in Ryan and Bentley’s lives with acceptance and maturity. Which is a lot more than I can say for the “version of Maci” I’ve had to contend with. 

Dating a man with a son, I had a lot of people who were incredibly supportive. On the flip side I had friends and family meet that decision with criticism, judgement and commentary behind my back. Similar to the way I felt about Dalis when I watched the show. Looking back I’ve got to commend her, she stepped into the role of being Ryan’s girlfriend in front of America and probably felt the wrath of Maci fans every where. I had a hard enough time just dealing with the wrath of “my (slightly more evil version of) Maci” and her friends. 

Bottom line is all those things your mom told you about not judging a book by its cover or put yourself in the other person shoes before you judge them…well they were probably all true no matter how cliche. My sincerest apologies go out to Dalis, she was the girl we loved to hate and I truly feel bad about that. She really didn’t deserve it or do anything wrong and now that I’ve walked through life in a similar pair of shoes I see that. As for me, I’m not sure I’ll ever master the art of walking in these stilettos I tried on. 

Photo From: http://www.wetpaint.com/teen-mom/articles/2014-07-08-dalis-connell-talks-breakup-with-ryan-edwards

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Monday Night Struggles: The Bachelor Bracket Saga Continues

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Kelsey’s attention whoring, most likely faux, panic attack has left our brackets hanging in the balance, with no rose ceremony and more drama than one bottle of red wine can combat. Looking at who’s left on my bracket I can’t help but think WTF?! …and Wow ABC, kudos to your editing skills!

My pick for the winner is Kelsey…I know right, how did I manage to pick the crazy bitch that everyone hates, to be my winner. This is where I tip my hat to ABC, the season previews skillfully hid her crazy. After going on and on about her “Amazing story” I’m left thinking either she’s making everything about her dead hubby up or she killed him! Who’s with me? I’m actually hoping for Chris’s sake that I lose. Also, does anyone else think Chris’s slight melt down pre-rose ceremony caused her to fake a panic attack in a desperate attempt to get a rose? She scares me.

Jade is my runner up. She’s so cute and sweet and I was seriously wishing I had picked her to win. Then I found out shy little Jade posed for play boy! Can’t wait for that bomb to drop. I’m betting Farmer Chris’s sisters will be shocked that the Cinderella they picked for their precious baby brother is moonlighting as a play boy model. All I could think looking at her nudie was, did she get hypothermia during the photo shoot??

Then there is Whitney, I’m thinking she might win but omfg her voice is annoying. Good luck listening to that! I’m pretty sure if he picked her, her type A personality would be running his tiny Iowa town in no time.

And Caitlin, she’s my pick for the next bachelorette. Cute, entertaining and she’s going to take one look at Chris’s home town and yell “just kidding”!

I think I could write a whole blog on how much I hate Ashley I! Every time she speaks I think “ohhh myyy godddd Ashley I STFU and stop crying you annoying whore.” I literally want to slap this girl every time she talks about being a virgin, cries, blinks because her eye lashes are sooooo fake, and when ever she has a jealous temper tantrum…so basically I want to slap her like the whole episode.

Every rose ceremony when he calls Samantha…I see her and go “who the F**k is that??” I think she’s said maybe five words the whole season. Has she ever even talked to Chris?? He’s been dropping girls like flies and yet she’s still here?? I’m confused.

Megan…I can’t tell if she’s always drunk or if she’s dumb as a post. Either way she’s adorable and I want to party with her…and explain that yes New Mexico is a state and Mexico is a country. Clearly a cute guy sat in front of her in geography.

Who the hell allowed Mackenzie to go on the Bachelor. She’s is 21 and acts about 12….stop talking about aliens and go home to your kid. I believe the show you were looking for was teen mom. Sorry not sorry.

Carly… I hope when she watches this back she counts how many times she says “like” every episode. “My like ex wouldn’t like touch me and like didn’t like know why”…that would be enough for me to not give her a rose. If she got rid of the incessant likes and stepped her eyebrow game up, I could root for her!

Becca, bachelor virgin #2…I have no complaints so far. She’s flying just under the radar and she could be a serious contender.

And last but not least, one of Farmer Chris’s favorites Britt. Did she really think she could pull a fast one on us? We know what nap means, as Kaitlyn would say, he plowed Britt’s field. All I could think when that door closed was “gosh I really hoped she showered.” She may have been make up ready at 4:30 AM but was she clean? One things for sure Britt is a dirty girl. Hearing her say she wanted 100 babies made me want Chris to pick her and turn her into a baby factory just to teach her a lesson about honesty.

I seriously can’t wait for the After the final rose because farmer Chris is going to be wondering why he kept Ashely I so long, and finally get to see how crazy Kelsey is…unless he picks her…coz she will probably murder him before the last episode airs.

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