Skinny Betch Struggles 

  There is no struggle more real than that of a skinny Betch. It’s f***ing like June already and the past few months of  dieting and going to the gym, followed by binge drinking haven’t left you looking like like Jillian Michaels…oops…whatever. So You’ve set your sites on crash dieting before notable events …obviously

With an event two weeks away you’ve traded in your Monday night glass of wine ( while watching the bachelorette, of course) for some detox water in an attempt to cleanse your body of toxins and guilt from last weekends poor life choices. It’s fine.  

There is absolutely nothing worse than coming off a three day weekend bender of vodka sodas, mini cupcakes, and iced white mochas and having to get back on the treadmill and eat a salad. You know all you wanna do is go get and in and out burger and satisfy your grease craving, since let’s be honest you’re still feeling your hangover even though it’s Tuesday…thanks for that mid twenties. 

But no, you have to be in a bikini, in Vegas in two weeks Betch, step away from the French fry and go drown your sorrows in an iced coffee coz that’s as close to junk food as you’re going to get. 

Then there are those health is a lifestyle bitches who don’t crave sweets, do yoga and get drunk off three vodka shots…all I have to say to them is … You can’t sit with us. 

For the Betch that needs a little motivation… If being photographed in a bikini and instagrammed isn’t enough motivation for you, hang a photo of the VS model in the bikini you just ordered online on your full length mirror….it will give you something to aspire too…trust. 

Also after staying sober for two weeks, your tolerance is low which means you’re consuming like half the normal amount of alcohol calories, right! Well that’s what we’re going to tell ourselves…

Once you’ve achieved your desired skinny Betch body it’s all about moderation… What is moderation you ask??  It means having a glass of wine and a slice of pizza during your Bachelorette viewing party (after a hardcore Monday gym sesh) Not  eating a box a pizza while consuming the entire bottle of wine. This rule goes not apply to Starbucks…it is always a Venti Iced Coffee…..always. Anyone who tells you that you need to moderate your coffee consumption is a negative presence and you don’t need that in your life! 

Stay Skinny Betches! 

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The Girl You Love to Hate

 

 If you were a fan of the original Teen Mom on MTV, like I was, you probably remember Lovable Maci, Ryan the hot bad boy, and their adorable baby boy Bentley. I was a huge a Maci fan! And even though Ryan was an ass, girls watching usually had a soft spot for him because he was so darn attractive.  And then along came Dalis, his new girlfriend. The girl we all loved to hate! She was shattering our hopes that the fairy tale we wanted, that Ryan and Maci would end up together, may not come to be true. She was for all intents and purposes the shows villan….but why?  It wasn’t Dalis that caused their break up, and she seems like a likable, hard working woman! 

You know how they say don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes? Well it’s true…I judged Dalis… And then I found myself stumbling  through life in a gorgeous pair of strappy, hot pink stilettos that I had no idea how to walk in, or how much they would hurt my feet after walking a few miles. 

I found myself in a similar position to Dalis  and it me sick to think of how I judged her. I can’t even watch the show anymore, because after you’ve lived it, your point of view completely changes. 

Saying its not easy to be in a relationship that involves a child, custody battles and the struggle to co-parent and have all parties be civil with one another is the understatement of the century. It takes an incredibly strong, self aware, and confident individual to step into that situation and handle it with the class and grace it demands. And it’s easy to faulter and not take the high road when faced with challenges, judgement and rude, demeaning comments. Not to meantion what it means and the responsibility that comes with being in a child’s life. 

Maci and her friends had their moments of cattiness toward Dalis on the show, and in some respects she may have had a right too. Overall Maci handled Dallis being in Ryan and Bentley’s lives with acceptance and maturity. Which is a lot more than I can say for the “version of Maci” I’ve had to contend with. 

Dating a man with a son, I had a lot of people who were incredibly supportive. On the flip side I had friends and family meet that decision with criticism, judgement and commentary behind my back. Similar to the way I felt about Dalis when I watched the show. Looking back I’ve got to commend her, she stepped into the role of being Ryan’s girlfriend in front of America and probably felt the wrath of Maci fans every where. I had a hard enough time just dealing with the wrath of “my (slightly more evil version of) Maci” and her friends. 

Bottom line is all those things your mom told you about not judging a book by its cover or put yourself in the other person shoes before you judge them…well they were probably all true no matter how cliche. My sincerest apologies go out to Dalis, she was the girl we loved to hate and I truly feel bad about that. She really didn’t deserve it or do anything wrong and now that I’ve walked through life in a similar pair of shoes I see that. As for me, I’m not sure I’ll ever master the art of walking in these stilettos I tried on. 

Photo From: http://www.wetpaint.com/teen-mom/articles/2014-07-08-dalis-connell-talks-breakup-with-ryan-edwards

15 Signs your BFF is actually your Soulmate 

We all have that one girlfriend that’s just on another level…your person; the Christina to your Meredith, the Samantha to your Carrie, the Peyton Sawyer to your Brooke Davis. She gets you, she’s there for you, and you would totally marry her if she had a penis…neither of you want to give up the D, no matter much you love each other. Even when you find the love your life, she will always be your soul mate. 

1. You speak your own language.  

2. Their boyfriend accepts he is basically dating you too…  

  

….and fighting with you…you feel her pain and you respond to texts as a team!

3. You consult each other when making important life choices. 

  

4. You spend hours debating the minutia of Taylor Swift songs and how they impact your life.  

   

5. You’re always their in spirit… Or via text … To make sure she’s looking her best. 

  

6. You’re always on her side…no matter what stupid thing she does…because you’re a team. Anyone who messes with your main betch better beware.  

7. She’s been there through everything, your happy, sad and slutty moments. And she remembers them better than you do. That’s why you have to call her to remember the names of all the guys you’ve dated. 

8. Your unbreakable bond is apparent to everyone… 

9. Friends who stalk together, stay together. 

 

10. She always has your best interest at heart… 

11. You’ve moved beyond ugly snap chats…you send flossy snaps because some needs to appreciate how on point your eyebrow game is today. 

12. They blow up your Instagram with hilarious tags to help get you through your work day…. 

13. When life’s not fair because you can’t hang out… 

 14. They worry about you. And your uterus. If you forget to take your birth control it’s going to put a damper on their fun.  

 

15. They give the best advice…  

 

WTF Moments:Giving Pretty Girls Wrinkles by 30

 

 Today was one of those days…I’ve come to the realization that because of days like today I will need Botox by the time I’m 30. A very tiny thin barely noticeable line has appeared and made itself at home on my forehead. 

You know how they say resting bitch face keeps you pretty? It’s true. I have chronic resting bitch face…a disease which I’ve come to accept. Unfortunately, my next most common face is the eye brow raise…. You know the face…caused by what I like to call “WTF moments” …you know the ones caused by stupidity or excessivness and followed by the phrase, “I can’t!”….yeah, with each eye-brow raise this f**king wrinkle becomes more deeply engraved on my forehead and I blame stupid, excessive  people.

Here are my top five reasons why pretty girls need Botox by 30….

1. Co-workers. They are without a doubt my number one reason, I can’t even tell you how many temper tantrums and e-mails cause me to raise my eyebrows each and every day …for extended periods of time. It baffles me the lack of professionalism that is allowed in the work place. I had a co-worker storm out of a meeting and yell “I’m over it”….not one of us knew why, I can’t even tell you how long my eyebrows were raised in utter shock! Or girls who cry hysterically because cause were told they were incorrect or made a mistake….and not just once, Every. Single. Time. I just can’t…but unfortunately my eyebrows can. And then there is that guy…. the guy that hits on you via work email…I just wanna respond….”you know our boss can see this right” …and yes this is sexual harassment…and now the break room is in perpetual state awkwardness and eyebrow raises. So thanks for the wrinkle buddy! 

2. When you check your bank account….either way there is going to be an eye brow raise of epic proportions! It’s either a WTF happy, shocked, I have way more money than I thought and I deserve a treat, eye brow raise or it’s a WTF how did I spend so much money I can’t afford a Starbucks tomorrow morning, eye brow raise. Only like 3% of the time do you actually think “oh ya that’s what I thought” when you look at your bank statement. You can thank your after 3 glasses of wine online shopping addiction for that…you know who you are.

3. When my boyfriend eats my food…I have six siblings, they eat a lot more than I do, this has turned me into a food hoarder…well kinda. My BF makes me dinner and gives the standard boy girl portions…so he has way more then me…and then he has the nerve  to reach over and grab the egg off my salad…OMG….the wrinkle that eyebrow raise gives me is the reason he will be paying for my Botox someday! 

4. Exes….when your ex sends you selfie snapchats asking  how you are…and a few hours later they send you a snuggley snap of them with their new GF…wtf is wrong with you? My eyebrows are permanently stuck in this position because you are clearly a sociopath…weirdo. Then I raise my eyebrows again…so I can ponder why I dated you!                                             And then their is his ex, the jealous ex girl friend who shows up at bars to see what you look like, because yes, you really are that beautiful in person, and then trashes you on her Facebook, calling you things like slut and troll. Sadly, yes, these are also wrinkle causing moments, my eyebrows are raised because she’s a stalker…and then I add to my laugh lines because it’s kind of hilarious.

5. When retail therapy goes wrong. It was one of those days where, your coworkers suck, traffic was horrible, your boyfriend forgot to change your reservation coz you had to work late and you stop by target on your way home…every woman’s happy place. You go in for a bottle of white wine and a pint of Ben and Jerry’s to drown your sorrows. And then you see the most adorable pair of shoes, there is one pair left, they are your size and on sale for 20 bucks. It’s like the shoe sale God’s put them there just for you…so obviously your broke, you don’t get paid for another week…and obviously you need to text your BFF to make sure they are cute enough to buy….and because your day sucks that bitch (and you call her that with so much love) decides to pick now to have a life and not text you back. Whyyyy…so you complain to your boyfriend…and he says “baby you deserve the shoes, you should buy them”. The person who judges the amount you shop the most, just made you feel ok about your purchase…it’s moments like this that remind you why you keep that adorable boy around. Your day is turning around! You check out, and you’re slightly surprised by the total. You glance at the receipt when you get home and notice despite the sale sign you just paid FULL PRICE for those beautiful  on sale, Gift from the Retail God’s shoes….so you raise your eyebrows at that receipt and contemplate what to do next. Then you finally come to the conclusion that you should screw the extra ten bucks and open that bottle of wine…to relax your face muscles obviously….

And that ladies and gents is why I will someday need Botox….what can we take away from this??  We can thank wine for the help until it’s time to get those lovely Botox injections. Did I mention I hate needles??? 

Signs you’re a Functioning Hot Mess 

It’s the little things that make you feel like you’ve gotten your life together. Those moments make up about 5 percent of your life and the other 95 percent is the daily struggle you go through just barely passing as a functioning member of society, you know what I mean …right? 

1. You think that you’ve accomplished something great by being in a relationship. No matter how serious or casual at least it’s something to tell your family members while you’re home for the holidays. You can’t bare to asked why you’re still single by your great aunt June one more time. 

2. You lay out your “work clothes” the night before so you can hit the snooze button, just one more time the next morning. Every minute counts. 

3. You go into Target to by eye liner and bananas…and you come out with three bottles of wine. Oops. 

4. You get in a great work out and you’re so proud of yourself… so obviously  you reward yourself with a glass of wine and a brownie. Your health kick will start tomorrow. For real this time. 

5. You’ve tried to calculate how much of your paycheck is currently sitting in the Starbucks register. 

6. You’re trying to save money…until you’ve had a half a bottle of wine, your inhibitions have been lowered, let the online shopping begin. After all, it’s been a rough week. 

7. “Packing a lunch for work” is an easy Mac and a string cheese. It fits into your budget but not your healthy meal plan. Shhh, don’t tell my food journal. 

8. Dry shampoo and perfume are your best friends. Your co workers won’t be able to tell you didn’t shower this morning. 

9. Choosing between canceling your gym membership and wine of the month club…you can run outside right? 

10. You put that your outdoorsy on your online dating profile. You love drinking mimosas by the pool. 

11. You love brunch, because it’s a classy way to binge drink on a Sunday.

12. Your personal trainer asks what you’ve done today. You say yoga and arms. Because you opened a bottle of wine while wearing yoga pants. 

13. You’re version of saving money isn’t by not spending it, it’s by using your credit card instead. 

14. You can’t be friends with your co-workers on Facebook  because they would know the real reason you called in sick last Friday. 

15. You throw on running shoes with your yoga pants and messy bun so the people at target think you came from the gym not the couch. 

16. You still aren’t mature enough to go out With your girlfriends for a drink. One drink turns into seven. And forget about happy hour, that turns into crawling to the front door at midnight. 

17. You feel a sense of accomplishment after finishing a whole series on Netflix. It took hours of dedication. 

18. You keep telling yourself that someday you’re going to use your college major for something in real life. 

19. You tell yourself every Friday that next week you’re going to start working out and eating right. Is there a weight loss plan that includes wine? 

20. When you’re having a bad day you compare it the day Kim K’s sex tape was released and think maybe it’s not so bad. 

It’s Valentines Day…Somebody Pass the Tequila

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Valentine’s day is less than a week away and the social media world is already a flutter with angst and preciousness. Single girls are bitching and threatening to sign off of all social media for Vday…how tragic. Cheating boyfriends are busy making dinner reservations for BAE, while ordering his side chick flowers…for delivery of course. And the average BF is busy scrambling to make last min reservations and pick up flowers in a feeble attempt to placate his girlfriend. Friends with benefits avoid each other like the plague. And girlfriends are subscribing their bfs to the beer of the month club by the thousands.

The single girls broadcasting their relationship status, or lack there of, are in need of a little tough love this Valentines Day. While you may feel forever alone now, that will not always be the case. And if you look back through past Facebook albums I’m willing to bet that you’ll find a disgustingly adorable Vday post similar to the ones you’re bitching about now. Calm down…it’s nothing a dose of sarcasm and a shot of tequila can’t fix. Not to mention, it could be worse, there are children starving in Africa…at least you can eat (or drink) your feelings.
Every other day of the month you’re preaching about your single girl independence. Go out and be the independent woman you claim to be. Go buy yourself a bouquet, it’s not pathetic, if you wanted flowers to go in your kitchen vase any other day of the year you’d buy them right?! Or better yet go buy yourself a bottle of tequila and those chocolate covered strawberries you’ve been eyeing and have a good old, man bashing, Vday with your single ladies. After all, some of the most memorable Vdays are the ones you spend with your girlfriends.
So before you write and dramatic status about how sick you are of seeing your girls post pictures of flowers, chocolates, presents, (and god forbid engagement rings) this Valentines day take a moment and remember you’ve been there. You have posted flowers with obnoxious captions about your “babe” or vom inducing happy valentines day kissing pics of you and your man. If you haven’t, next year you may want to and you don’t wanna be a hypocrite, right?! So be a good sport, quit your bitching and like your girlfriends posts. After all, it’s her turn to be the spoiled girl on valentines day. She’s held your hand and your hair through your break ups and make ups, you owe her.

And a note to all you boyfriends out there. Even if we say Valentines Day isn’t a big deal and we play it off like it’s a consumer holiday, don’t believe us. Even if it’s not our favorite holiday, we are secretly hoping you do something to acknowledge the holiday. As much as we love being included in this romantic holiday, and let’s be honest here girls, we do. (I’ve never felt more special and envied than the Valentines day my boyfriend had roses and a teddy bear delivered to my office.) There is something to be said about getting flowers, just about any other day of the year. As much fun as it is to celebrate Vday, getting flowers on a random day for no reason can be 100 times more romantic than getting flowers the same day every other girlfriend does because that’s what boyfriends supposed to do. So keep that in mind fellas, we like to be spoiled the other 364 days of the year too!

Cheers to all my single ladies out there, don’t forget the salt and limes. And to all my couples…post away, you have my blessing ….Happy Valentines Day! Xoxo.

Bad Boys are Bad Habits

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It’s the age old question…Good Guys vs. Bad Boys. (I’m seriously channeling my inner Carrie Bradshaw for this one.) Bad boys are the hardest habit to break…but why? Are women just gluttons for punishment or is there a bad boy high we just can’t get from a good guy?

Bad boys are never boring, you’re on a constant roller coaster ride of highs and lows, ergo you never lose that spark. That intensity that you feel at the beginning of all relationships feels ever lasting, comparing it to the fading spark that comes with being in a relationship with a good guy is unfair and unrealistic.

The giddy, on top of the world feeling women derive from compliments and attention bad boys give stems from the fact that they aren’t really “ours”. You don’t have the comfort of knowing he’s he will always be there, you’re in a constant competition with every other woman in the room. He is not your boyfriend and no matter how you feel, what he says, or what you tell yourself…he’s probably just a guy you roll in the sheets with.

At some point every woman grows in maturity and walks away (or takes an extended vacation) from the off and on dramatic saga of being in a pseudo relationship with a bad boy and finds herself a good guy. It’s like a chronic illness, they show up when you least expect it and throw your life into a tail spin. Don’t let them. You’ve found your stable, dependable and adoring good guy….and then your bad boy comes out of the wood work to comment on your photo and tell you how good you look, as if he’s been pining for you all this time. When really he’s been whoring around. He has not changed and never will…but all those feelings rush back anyway making you think he was always truly your soul mate. But he probably isn’t …do you ever ask yourself how you’d feel about him if he wasn’t so bad??

Bad boys are never really there for you, they don’t stay in and watch Netflix, they don’t make you breakfast in bed, or take care of you when your sick. They are only around for fun, drinks, bed time, and drama. You don’t see them daily, they aren’t with you through the good, bad and the ugly. There is no time for them to become a part of your monotonous daily routine. Consistency kills the magic …it’s an unfortunate part of life. A good guy will work on keeping the magic alive over time. A bad boy will be on to the next…probably before you even know the spark went out.

So why is it that women always feel like leaving the toxic bad boy and his spark behind is some form of settling? Probably because in the back of your mind you know that nothing will ever compare to the feeling that came with absolute uncertainty, cheating, lies and deceit that led to passionate make ups. And almost all women have a bad habit of looking back in their tumultuous relationship and only remember the good times. So are women absolute relationship masochists?? The ones that sacrifice constant happiness (even if it’s less exciting) with a good guy to go back to a bad boy probably are just a little bit.

That said any women who has had a tortured on and off romance with a bad boy is a lot like a recovering drug addict. It’s mind over matter. No matter how bad you crave the high you have to fight it, because relapsing with turn your life upside down, you’ll hurt people you care about…for a brief fling that will once again leave you rock bottom….a place that you called home once upon a time. And that wasn’t fun the the first 50 times was it? It may take years to realize but a truly grown woman will choose the good guy at the end of the day.