The Girl You Love to Hate

 

 If you were a fan of the original Teen Mom on MTV, like I was, you probably remember Lovable Maci, Ryan the hot bad boy, and their adorable baby boy Bentley. I was a huge a Maci fan! And even though Ryan was an ass, girls watching usually had a soft spot for him because he was so darn attractive.  And then along came Dalis, his new girlfriend. The girl we all loved to hate! She was shattering our hopes that the fairy tale we wanted, that Ryan and Maci would end up together, may not come to be true. She was for all intents and purposes the shows villan….but why?  It wasn’t Dalis that caused their break up, and she seems like a likable, hard working woman! 

You know how they say don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes? Well it’s true…I judged Dalis… And then I found myself stumbling  through life in a gorgeous pair of strappy, hot pink stilettos that I had no idea how to walk in, or how much they would hurt my feet after walking a few miles. 

I found myself in a similar position to Dalis  and it me sick to think of how I judged her. I can’t even watch the show anymore, because after you’ve lived it, your point of view completely changes. 

Saying its not easy to be in a relationship that involves a child, custody battles and the struggle to co-parent and have all parties be civil with one another is the understatement of the century. It takes an incredibly strong, self aware, and confident individual to step into that situation and handle it with the class and grace it demands. And it’s easy to faulter and not take the high road when faced with challenges, judgement and rude, demeaning comments. Not to meantion what it means and the responsibility that comes with being in a child’s life. 

Maci and her friends had their moments of cattiness toward Dalis on the show, and in some respects she may have had a right too. Overall Maci handled Dallis being in Ryan and Bentley’s lives with acceptance and maturity. Which is a lot more than I can say for the “version of Maci” I’ve had to contend with. 

Dating a man with a son, I had a lot of people who were incredibly supportive. On the flip side I had friends and family meet that decision with criticism, judgement and commentary behind my back. Similar to the way I felt about Dalis when I watched the show. Looking back I’ve got to commend her, she stepped into the role of being Ryan’s girlfriend in front of America and probably felt the wrath of Maci fans every where. I had a hard enough time just dealing with the wrath of “my (slightly more evil version of) Maci” and her friends. 

Bottom line is all those things your mom told you about not judging a book by its cover or put yourself in the other person shoes before you judge them…well they were probably all true no matter how cliche. My sincerest apologies go out to Dalis, she was the girl we loved to hate and I truly feel bad about that. She really didn’t deserve it or do anything wrong and now that I’ve walked through life in a similar pair of shoes I see that. As for me, I’m not sure I’ll ever master the art of walking in these stilettos I tried on. 

Photo From: http://www.wetpaint.com/teen-mom/articles/2014-07-08-dalis-connell-talks-breakup-with-ryan-edwards

Stitch Fix Review: From Skeptic to Addict 

For months I listened to my bestie go on and on about Stitch Fix. I’d never heard of it, when she explained it was a personal stylist that sent her clothes and accessories it made me think of all this obnoxious commercials for Just Fab.com the show stylist. I worried that it wouldn’t fit right, it wouldn’t be my style, it would be too expensive, it would be a hassle to send back or a waste of money. Frankly, I thought I could do better myself. She sent me pictures of her in the adorable, fabulous fitting clothes, and I was curious. She sent me a gift card for my birthday and I took the plunge. Now I’m obsessed totally addicted. (Pieces pictured throughout) 

The process was simple. I filled out a questionnaire about my style, what I wear on a daily basis. They get specific from if you dress business casual and how frequently and if your a mom etc. They give you pictures to rate and a way to link it to your Pinterest to insure that they get your style on point. And they ask you a whole lot of questions regarding your size and how you like things to fit and what parts of your body you like to show off. It’s in depth  to say the least. At the end you put in your card info, they charge a 25 dollar styling fee which they credit back toward anything you keep. (I know what you’re thinking …that alone would have stopped me if I hadn’t had a gift card). Finally, you can leave a not for your stylist letting them know if you’d like anything specific from the stitch fix Instagram, Facebook, Pinterest or blog. If you like anything specific, animal print, leather, etc. Or if there is a special event, trip or occasion you want a special piece for. I told them I love animal print, leather, business casual with an edge and a cute date night pieces.  

 

They absolutely nailed my first fix! I got a dress that can seamlessly go from business casual at the office to date night with leather detailing. A classy sleeveless leapord print blouse that again can be dressed up for work or fun and casual for a night out! And shockingly…a pair of fabulous “Just Black” dark wash skinny jeans that fit my 4’11 frame and short legs perfectly, something I thought could not be done. I was impressed. I also got an amazing leather jacket with side zip detail. Finally, an adorable statement necklace that went perfectly with my dress. And the best part about it if you keep all five pieces you get a 20% discount. Total I paid about 200 dollars for my first fix. It’s been my most expensive one so far. I’m not the kind of girl that normally drops 200 dollars on clothes but these pieces were beyond worth it. If I had heard the price before I probably wouldn’t have done it.  

 

Each fix comes with a note from your stylist and pictures showing two different ways to wear each piece.bi really appreciated that, it was helpful and the note made it feel more personal. You know those pieces were carefully picked just for you. 

You receive  an email after your fix arrives. You check out online, let them know what your keeping and what you’re sending back. They charge you for the pieces you’re keeping! Also, you answer questions about what you like about each piece, how it fit, etc. it helps them know what improvements to make and what they did right for your next fix. 

 

My second fix was not quite as successful. I got two amazing blouses that I’m in LOVE with! I asked for something a little sexier and a little more low cut for a date night or night out look and they hit the nail on the head! The other was a color block blouse that I had pinned in a similar color on my Pinterest. Also another gorgeous statement necklace. I got a dress that wasn’t my style and not the right fit, but I loved the color. And a skirt that was tribal print, something I like but it didn’t fit right and the material wasn’t me. I sent them both back. It was super easy. It comes with a prepaid bag, you put the clothes in it and drop it at the post off. It’s a hassle free experience! I was pleasantly surprised!  

 

My third piece I had a new stylist and another success! I kept all five prieces! I can’t wait for my next fix! I’m amazed at how well the pieces fit after answering a few questions online. Also it’s amazing how well someone else is able to choose pieces that are my style! I highly recommend it! Click below for a referral and order your fix today! 

https://www.stitchfix.com/referral/4414453

15 Signs your BFF is actually your Soulmate 

We all have that one girlfriend that’s just on another level…your person; the Christina to your Meredith, the Samantha to your Carrie, the Peyton Sawyer to your Brooke Davis. She gets you, she’s there for you, and you would totally marry her if she had a penis…neither of you want to give up the D, no matter much you love each other. Even when you find the love your life, she will always be your soul mate. 

1. You speak your own language.  

2. Their boyfriend accepts he is basically dating you too…  

  

….and fighting with you…you feel her pain and you respond to texts as a team!

3. You consult each other when making important life choices. 

  

4. You spend hours debating the minutia of Taylor Swift songs and how they impact your life.  

   

5. You’re always their in spirit… Or via text … To make sure she’s looking her best. 

  

6. You’re always on her side…no matter what stupid thing she does…because you’re a team. Anyone who messes with your main betch better beware.  

7. She’s been there through everything, your happy, sad and slutty moments. And she remembers them better than you do. That’s why you have to call her to remember the names of all the guys you’ve dated. 

8. Your unbreakable bond is apparent to everyone… 

9. Friends who stalk together, stay together. 

 

10. She always has your best interest at heart… 

11. You’ve moved beyond ugly snap chats…you send flossy snaps because some needs to appreciate how on point your eyebrow game is today. 

12. They blow up your Instagram with hilarious tags to help get you through your work day…. 

13. When life’s not fair because you can’t hang out… 

 14. They worry about you. And your uterus. If you forget to take your birth control it’s going to put a damper on their fun.  

 

15. They give the best advice…