The Girl You Love to Hate

 

 If you were a fan of the original Teen Mom on MTV, like I was, you probably remember Lovable Maci, Ryan the hot bad boy, and their adorable baby boy Bentley. I was a huge a Maci fan! And even though Ryan was an ass, girls watching usually had a soft spot for him because he was so darn attractive.  And then along came Dalis, his new girlfriend. The girl we all loved to hate! She was shattering our hopes that the fairy tale we wanted, that Ryan and Maci would end up together, may not come to be true. She was for all intents and purposes the shows villan….but why?  It wasn’t Dalis that caused their break up, and she seems like a likable, hard working woman! 

You know how they say don’t judge until you’ve walked a mile in someone else’s shoes? Well it’s true…I judged Dalis… And then I found myself stumbling  through life in a gorgeous pair of strappy, hot pink stilettos that I had no idea how to walk in, or how much they would hurt my feet after walking a few miles. 

I found myself in a similar position to Dalis  and it me sick to think of how I judged her. I can’t even watch the show anymore, because after you’ve lived it, your point of view completely changes. 

Saying its not easy to be in a relationship that involves a child, custody battles and the struggle to co-parent and have all parties be civil with one another is the understatement of the century. It takes an incredibly strong, self aware, and confident individual to step into that situation and handle it with the class and grace it demands. And it’s easy to faulter and not take the high road when faced with challenges, judgement and rude, demeaning comments. Not to meantion what it means and the responsibility that comes with being in a child’s life. 

Maci and her friends had their moments of cattiness toward Dalis on the show, and in some respects she may have had a right too. Overall Maci handled Dallis being in Ryan and Bentley’s lives with acceptance and maturity. Which is a lot more than I can say for the “version of Maci” I’ve had to contend with. 

Dating a man with a son, I had a lot of people who were incredibly supportive. On the flip side I had friends and family meet that decision with criticism, judgement and commentary behind my back. Similar to the way I felt about Dalis when I watched the show. Looking back I’ve got to commend her, she stepped into the role of being Ryan’s girlfriend in front of America and probably felt the wrath of Maci fans every where. I had a hard enough time just dealing with the wrath of “my (slightly more evil version of) Maci” and her friends. 

Bottom line is all those things your mom told you about not judging a book by its cover or put yourself in the other person shoes before you judge them…well they were probably all true no matter how cliche. My sincerest apologies go out to Dalis, she was the girl we loved to hate and I truly feel bad about that. She really didn’t deserve it or do anything wrong and now that I’ve walked through life in a similar pair of shoes I see that. As for me, I’m not sure I’ll ever master the art of walking in these stilettos I tried on. 

Photo From: http://www.wetpaint.com/teen-mom/articles/2014-07-08-dalis-connell-talks-breakup-with-ryan-edwards

10 Reasons Girls Love Football

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I don’t know about you but I am a huge football fan!! It’s the best part of fall! Food, beer, and men in tight pants…what’s not to love?

1. It’s Sexy. No guy can resist a hot girl who wants to drink a beer and watch the game. And if she understands the game…it’s a huge turn on! [Note: there is a fine line between being able to HANG with the guys and being ONE of the guys]
HOT: Shouting obscenities at the ref after a bad call with the guys.
NOT: Having a belching contest with guys during halftime…can you say friend zone??

2. The Food. It’s a smorgasbord of deliciousness. Pizza rolls, hot dogs, chips and dip. It’s a socially acceptable excuse to pig out. Check your diet at the door…and maybe put in some extra gym time because there is no salad allowed during the game.

3. We do it for the drinks. Football is an excuse to partake in some serious day drinking. Whether you care about what’s going on in the game or not, football is just not football with out a beer in hand. [Pro tip: if the game starts early I like to warm up with a mimosa or a Bloody Mary]

4. Football Pants. Erick Decker in tight white pants…need is say more??? #HOT

5. It’s a great excuse to get all of your friends together and have a good time. Even if you invite your friends who aren’t into football too …it’s just like a party where the TV is on! Give them a beer and some snacks and they will be good to go…Who doesn’t love chips and dip??

6. The outfits…nothing is more adorable than wearing your teams jersey! It’s perfect for a cute pre-game selfie. #gametime…Instagram you are welcome!

7. Fantasy football is not
Just for Guys! It’s fun and easy! And it makes watching the games on TV even more exciting because you have something riding on the outcome! There is nothing like screaming at the TV!

8. Bragging rights…there is nothing more fun that taking your besties team down during Monday night foot ball! Care to make a wager??

9. Single? Grab your girls and go watch the game at a bar… Remember when I told you guys like a girl who knows her football…I wasn’t kidding! Try me!

10. It’s a family friendly activity…why do you think everyone watches
Football on thanksgiving…that and you can start drinking at noon to cope with any awkward family drama with out anyone judging.

Thank you football!